5 Reasons Why You Should Request and Not Demand in a Relationship

4. The other person can take ownership

When someone fulfills a demand, they may have done that forcibly because they were under pressure to do so, as you left them with no choice. But when you request for things, the other person can take ownership of the request made, and can do the task happily to please you, without any burdens. So in the latter case, the person is actually doing it out of her heart for you, and has no expectations in return, because she has achieved what she wanted – to make you smile! This is a great way of strengthening your bond.

5. It shows value

One of the biggest things about making requests is that it shows you value the other person in some way. It means that you actually think that they are the ones who are capable of doing something for you, and that you wouldn’t trust anyone else with those requests. In demands however, you give out a very selfish vibe, where you just care about the things that will make you happy, and it doesn’t matter who does it for you. In that case, the other person feels that she has no real value in your life, and that she can be easily replaced by anyone else in your life, who would fulfill those demands for you.

So think carefully before you speak, and phrase your words right. Make sure you request for things, understanding the other person’s position, instead of demanding them like a boss. That sorts out quite a lot of relationship problems.