8 Tips to Maintain a Balance Between Your Mother and Your Wife

5. Make the boundaries clear

The areas of control need to be demarcated early on. You must make it clear to your mother that she should not interfere in your wife’s sphere or space. She should refrain from criticizing your wife’s sense of dressing, expenditure, cooking, her friends and family and the way she raises the children. Point out that this will just create unnecessary strain, in the same manner, your wife must understand if you help out financially or devote some time to your mother. Make it clear that they both are a priority for you.

6. Remember important dates

Small gestures like remembering birthdays, anniversaries, special days like Mother’s Day etc., and buying small gifts, showing your love. Don’t only buy gifts for your wife and ignore your mother and vice versa. This will make a bad situation worse.

7. Enjoy quality time as a family

You have get-togethers with friends and enjoy yourselves. Make the effort to sometimes join in for a little while in your parents’ group or participate in activities which you and your parents can enjoy together. You can also try to include your parents, siblings, cousins and wife in family get togethers or outings.

8. Be a good son and a good husband

Remember a lot depends on your handling of the situation. Since the bone of contention is you, the onus is also upon you to maintain peace in the house. Do not be a good son without also being a good husband.