5 Tips for Dating After Divorce

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Dating after a divorce is hard on many men. The number of years you had been married to your ex and the reason why you two decided to split up forever will always, consciously or subconsciously, affect the way you date. So here are the five most tips for dating after divorce.

1. Don’t jump into the dating pool immediately

You need to make sure that you’re over your ex before you start dating other women. Men love to show a tough exterior and pretend that they are not affected by emotions, but the end of a marriage, however amicable, will leave some wounds that require time to heal. Give yourself a few months to process the divorce. This leads to the next point.

2. Do take up a new hobby or sport

When you do start dating after your divorce, it should not take over your entire life. Love is just one part of your life so learn to balance it along with your career, your friends and some me-time. This me-time can be you learning a new sport or honing your skills in one that you already play. If sports is not your thing you can learn a new language or take up a class that will help you advance your career. If you have children, especially teenagers, spend more time getting to know them better. You could coach your little tyke’s softball team or help your teen with their school work.

3. Don’t compare your dates with your ex-wife

This goes for both positive and negative comparisons. If your ex was the one who had cheated on you, don’t assume that the next woman in your life will do the same. If you were the one at fault, don’t put your ex on a pedestal that the next woman in your life can’t possibly match up to. And it goes without saying that you shouldn’t be talking about your ex with your dates.