8 Tips to Overcome Performance Anxiety in Bed

5. Extend the foreplay

One exciting way to mentally prepare yourself for sex is to invest in an extended foreplay. A good foreplay never harms anyone. Show her what you can do with your hands and your tongue. Not only will it make the process more pleasurable for the girl, it will also give you some time to calm your nerves before sex.

6. Don’t worry about the outcome

The way you perform in bed has a lot to do with what you are thinking during the act. If you are constantly worried about the outcome, you will not be able to relax. Think positive and let the whole act be spontaneous and fun. Every time you get a negative thought, replace it with a positive one. Sex is not a test of your manhood. It is simply an act which you and your partner should enjoy together.

7. Distract yourself

If you are unable to block negative thoughts then you can try distracting yourself by putting on some exciting and romantic music or a sexy movie. It should be something that turns you on. Just take your mind off how you are performing sexually and focus on being excited.

8. Relax

Most importantly, just relax! You will be amazed to know how common sexual performance anxiety is among men. It is nothing to be ashamed of. Know that arousal is closely tied to your thoughts and emotions. If you are mentally stressed out, then your body will not be able to get excited.